A short while ago, I had a fight with a loved one. A very silly fight, if you ask me. I recall something being said to me, while the other party doesn’t recall saying it. It’s simply an issue of bad memory, or forgetfulness. My loved one insists that it’s my recall that is erroneous, and that I ought to apologise. In turn, I questioned why the other person isn’t open to the possibility that their memory could be flawed, and that apologising for something I hadn’t done is insincere and tantamount to lying. Shortly after though, after much prayer and reflection, when my spirit was once again calm, I apologised – not because it was expected, but because I was truly sorry that we had misunderstood each other and that it had resulted in heated tempers and harsh words.
Why is it so important for us to have others admit they have wronged us? While sincere apologies are necessary and go a very far way in helping to resolve conflict, we should be willing to forgive – even in the absence of an apology. After all, it is human to make mistakes; we all take missteps, all the time. We must therefore be willing to forgive wrongdoing, perceived or real, and to move forward, wiping clean the slate of the wrongdoer. Not an easy task, but isn’t that what we ask of our heavenly Father on a daily basis?
Matthew 6:14-15 (NIV)
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.